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▣ Emotions and How Meditation Can Help.

posted by on May 30th, 2010 at 7:45 PM

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I want to know about anxiety, fear, jealousy, guilt and intolerance and how all these emotions and attitudes relate to each other and how meditation helps one intentionally intervene to keep these emotions from taking over their life?

 

It is important to recognize that answering this question could take an entire book as it is about human emotions which are very complex areas of the psyche – the conscious and unconscious process of the human mind (JARs). Meditation is useful in

(1) clarifying your mind regarding the factors, people and your interpretation of the emotions that you are dealing with in some important situation in a protected spiritual environment;

(2) focusing your awareness in such a way that it allows you to intervene – creating an intentional intervention;

(3) expanding your view of the world;

(4) wrapping you in calmness – peace of mind; and

(5) as needed, providing the gift of Universal Healing.

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▣ Love Me Tender...Part 3. Love

posted by on May 23rd, 2010 at 6:23 PM

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Part 3.  Love…

For starters, most of us do not understand or know how to define love.  We speak about flowers, diamond rings, a beautiful home, a faithful spouse, children, and so on.  However, these are how we define “conditional” love, e.g., if you...

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▣ Love Me Tender...Part 2. Forgiveness

posted by on May 16th, 2010 at 3:07 PM

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Part 2.  Forgiveness…

Forgiveness and fear often times are connected, i.e., we find ourselves facing a fear we have had for most or all of our life because it manifests through a relationship or event in our life OR we develop a fear as an outcome to some relationship or event in our life (acquired fear). 

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▣ LOVE ME TENDER – The Journey from fear to forgiveness to love! Part 1. Fear

posted by on May 9th, 2010 at 1:51 PM

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Part 1.  From FEAR
              Part 2.  To FORGIVENESS

                                 Part 3.  To LOVE

INTRODUCTION

Are you nostalgic for the good old days?

In the good old-days before every household had a television, life was simpler – or so it seemed. You can watch an old movie or one of the early television shows like, “It’s a Wonderful Life” with James Stewart and Donna Reed, or “The Donna Reed Show,” or “Father Knows Best” with Robert Young and Jane Wyatt.  These shows depicted life as simple giving the impression that life was safe and secure. On these shows, neighbors knew each other and did not lock their doors; as a kid, you could go to your parent and get them to help you with any of life’s problems; even the teenagers had...

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▣ The AURA

posted by on March 19th, 2010 at 12:23 PM

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Background Information…

What is the aura? Some of you may already know this, but it is worth repeating the basics to ensure that everyone can create a visual reference when asked to visualize the aura in meditation.

 

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▣ How do I know if it belongs to me?

posted by on February 28th, 2010 at 7:28 PM

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Have you ever had someone in your life that made you feel bad about yourself; made you feel inferior; made you feel as if everything that goes wrong is your fault?

 

My general prescription for handling someone like this is to take a deep breath, smile, thank them for their comment(s), and remove oneself from their general vicinity; thus, saving and/or reclaiming any energy which may have been donated/lost to this individual. 

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▣ Tell me why I am depressed…

posted by on February 23rd, 2010 at 7:18 AM

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Have you heard yourself say anything like this and you just don’t know why loved ones or friends just don’t understand? I am depressed, I cannot do the laundry. I am depressed, I cannot go to work today. I am depressed, I cannot do my homework. I am depressed, I cannot babysit little sister tonight; so mom you have to stay home or hire someone. I am tired and too depressed to cook a healthy meal, so we will just order pizza. I do love you, but I ache all over and I feel so tired and depressed that I can’t even think of making love to you. I just don’t feel like going on vacation in the Bahamas because I’m so tired and I ache all over and just feel sort of depressed all the time; I just want to stay home on my recliner.

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▣ Sometimes I feel as if I sabotage myself.

posted by on January 31st, 2010 at 6:42 PM

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Let’s discuss here how many times you/we have sabotaged ourselves.
Again, I must take us to our jars (subconscious).  Here we find our foundation for self-esteem/self-worth.  We create and live our entire lives through the beliefs we hold about ourselves.  If we feel unworthy, we create situations in our lives that mirror our unworthiness back to us.  If we feel unlovable, we search endlessly for someone who will love us.  When we find someone who we feel loves us, he/she will inevitably behave in ways that make us feel unloved/betrayed by love.   If we feel we are not smart enough, we may drop out of school or avoid going to college because of a fear of failure.  Whatever belief(s) you have about yourself forms the foundation of your behavior, your choices, your experiences, and what and/or who you attract into life.

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▣ How Can I Improve My Day and My Life?

posted by on January 24th, 2010 at 10:53 AM

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Have you attempted to control your thoughts; only thinking positive, happy, prosperous and uplifting thoughts? Have you only thought nice things about yourself and others? Have you been thankful for what is going "right" and counting your blessings? And intentionally, i.e., consciously learning from what appears to be going "wrong?" There is great power in this process, but most people are completely ignorant of this power. Whether you apply this principle or not makes a distinct difference in your life. When a person changes his or her habits of thinking, they will notice the difference within a couple of weeks. Otherwise, they simply perpetuate whatever their jar of unconscious thoughts creates.

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▣ What is my PLC for 2010?

posted by on January 2nd, 2010 at 9:32 PM

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Personal Life Cycle (PLC)…

Your Personal Life Cycle (PLC) represents a cyclical roadmap of your life.  PLC’s operate in nine-year segments beginning with one and ending with a PLC of nine.  Each year presents a new set of vibrational energies, so knowing your cycles can enable you to create the right circumstances to help you achieve your goals.

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▣ What about those what if's?

posted by on December 13th, 2009 at 8:12 AM

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Ok, I know that it seems as if when something turns out to have different results than we expected or desired, or when we are planning on doing/obtaining something, “what if’s” seem terribly important.   So, why do I emphasize letting go of what if’s?  I will venture to explain because I know that in our jars we have become addicted to using what if’s in the way we use salt on our food. 

 

When we evoke the term, “What if?” diffferent things happen…

 

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▣ Sometimes I feel as if I have sold myself out...

posted by on December 6th, 2009 at 2:44 PM

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Ever feel as if you have sold yourself out? 

Well, surprise, you have!  Unconsciously most of the time, and sometimes on purpose.    For example, those times when you really despised your job, but you got a paycheck so you stayed; those times when you stayed in a bad relationship because you were afraid of taking care of yourself or you thought no one else would want you; those times you negotiated for something, and gave up some part of yourself to get it; those times when you convinced yourself if you only did it just this one time and you never did it again, all would be okay!  Ok, I am not just picking on you.  Most, probably all, human beings do it.

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▣ What is truth?

posted by on November 15th, 2009 at 2:46 PM

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What is the truth?

This is one of those trick questions because we all think we know what truth is.  BUT, in fact, we only know what we believe is truth in our book of rules.  Oh no, she’s going back to my jar!!!  As a matter of fact, I am going back to your jar.  This is where your understanding and/or should I say your perception of what is truth resides.   Some examples of perceptions/misconceptions of truth…

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▣ The Victim

posted by on November 8th, 2009 at 4:42 PM

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Over the years, I have found that when I realistically examine the thoughts in my head and correlate these thoughts to my behaviors, I truly am an accomplished victim.   As I recognize the victim drama I play, I have also become profoundly aware that the victim archetype seems to be alive and well in our society today, both in individual behavior and the collective behavior; e.g., groups playing the victim to other groups, whether political, religious, or rights groups; individuals feeling victimized by their circumstances.  On the other side of this is the fact that these same groups and individuals victimize others.  It is very easy for us to use the victim as an excuse for our misery, but how often do we recognize when we are victimizing others? 

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▣ What about "being right?"

posted by on October 11th, 2009 at 10:19 AM

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We, as humans, have a need to be right!   What is the payoff though “of being right?”  

How many times in your life have you sacrificed relationships, jobs, and money for the sake of being right?  As humans, we all have a need to be right.  We will defend our views/beliefs/perceptions to the ends of the universe, because this is what we do.  The problem is that all humans do the same.  So when you argue your...

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▣ Foundations

posted by on September 26th, 2009 at 7:59 PM

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"The greatest of victories is the victory over oneself."
-The Dhammapada: The Path of Perfection (1st Cent. B.C.)

 

The foundation of our life is built by the qualities of the beliefs we contain in our jars (our subconscious).  As a result of this, the foundation upon which we rely and judge our lives and from which we get feedback about how happy, successful, rich/poor, smart, good/bad, etc., is built on shaky (at best) footing.

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▣ What is so important about September?

posted by on September 6th, 2009 at 10:13 AM

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There is something about September that you should be made conscious of.  September is the month every year when you may find yourself a little depressed, sad, and/or feeling rundown,   It is the month that precedes our energy related to transitioning from one year to the next.   In this case, from 2009 to 2010.

 

“At this time you come face to face with life situations.  Old ideas become outdated and new goals become feasible.  There is often an internal struggle to decide whether to cling to the outmoded past or to associate yourself with the new incoming possibilities.  The choices confront you and your reluctance shows itself plainly.

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▣ What is meditation and why should I meditate?

posted by on August 23rd, 2009 at 5:11 PM

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I love meditation.  I love to see and hear about the benefits that my friends and students describe as they learn and become life long practitioners of meditation.  I have been a practitioner and teacher of meditation for 35 years and I feel it is my responsibility to share my knowledge and that of the people I have had the privilege of studying with over these many years.   
     
One of the reasons that people are drawn to meditation is because it is a great tool to be used in their daily life to help them deal with stress, lack of sleep, or mental chatter; but a practice of meditation can be so much more.

  

“Learning is not attained by chance, it must be sought for
with ardor and attended to with diligence.”

Abigail Adam

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▣ Why is getting out of my jar so important?

posted by on August 9th, 2009 at 5:14 PM

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As you know, your jar (http://www.thestudyofwhatif.com/classes.htm) is the storehouse of all yours memories, beliefs, your life’s experiences (both comfortable and uncomfortable/happy and sad, and so on), your fears, your hurts, your desires, your disappointments, your happy times, traditions, religious beliefs, etc. These memories are usually contained within your unconscious (jar), so we are unaware that they are having an influence on our outlook or the decisions we make. As we live our lives, our first reaction to any experience, from deciding if our day will be good or miserable or if someone we have just met is friendly or not, is based on data that is contained within our jars. For example,

§  if it is raining outside, our jars

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▣ Part 1. Making a Decision

posted by on July 27th, 2009 at 11:17 AM

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I am restless and would like to move, but I am afraid of making the wrong decision about moving.  What should I do?

 

Part 1.  Keep in mind that when it comes to making any and all choices in your life…

 

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A RIGHT OR WRONG CHOICE IN LIFE.


The idea that we make right or wrong choices/decisions is based...

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