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The simple answer is YES!   “Yes” becomes a most powerful answer if you are able to accept it because it can open doors for all of us to understand many of our relationships and teaches us that everyone we meet has a purpose in our lives, regardless of how happy or painful our experience with them is, how large or small a role they play in our lives, how much we love or despise them, or even if we actually know them. 

  • What if it were revealed to you that the smile you showed to that person you were passing on the street actually changed that person’s whole outlook on their life and may have actually saved their day? 
  • Perhaps as annoying to you as that honking horn was at the traffic light that it actually brought you back into the present moment and made you alert enough to miss an accident? 
  • What if your cheating spouse actually did you a favor by forcing an end to your marriage because your marriage was keeping you from doing what your Soul was supposed to be accomplishing and learning in this lifetime?

Is there a reason why we meet every single person in this life?

 

The simple answer is YES!   “Yes” becomes a most powerful answer if you are able to accept it because it can open doors for all of us to understand many of our relationships and teaches us that everyone we meet has a purpose in our lives, regardless of how happy or painful our experience with them is, how large or small a role they play in our lives, how much we love or despise them, or even if we actually know them. 

  • What if it were revealed to you that the smile you showed to that person you were passing on the street actually changed that person’s whole outlook on their life and may have actually saved their day? 
  • Perhaps as annoying to you as that honking horn was at the traffic light that it actually brought you back into the present moment and made you alert enough to miss an accident? 
  • What if your cheating spouse actually did you a favor by forcing an end to your marriage because your marriage was keeping you from doing what your Soul was supposed to be accomplishing and learning in this lifetime?

We do not always know why someone is in our lives, but we should know that they all have a purpose and if we are conscious enough, we can learn from our interactions/relationships with them.  When they really upset us, we should examine what it is in our consciousness that attracts or needs this upset so that we can learn and progress.   When they make us feel good about ourselves, we should remember to accept this good feeling and know that it is a reflection of something good in ourselves that needs to be acknowledged and, often times, developed to a greater degree.

 

As an exercise, you might consider stopping at least once a week and asking yourself who you have interacted with in the past few days that seemed to trigger a conscious response/reaction (whether a good feeling or anger) and then think about what it is that you can learn from the interaction.  You might start seeing one another as teachers rather than just as a nice or annoying person.

 

Why do some people seem so familiar to me especially when I may not even have met them?

Many people we meet in our lives are generally the same ones we have met in our past lives. Almost everyone who comes in and out of our current incarnation is someone we have dealt with before in a past incarnation. It could have been a very brief meeting or relationship to facilitate getting you from one point in your life to the next point or lesson. It could have been to serve as the introduction to another more important friendship, relationship or partnership or lesson on your life path. Someone might be a waitress in a restaurant you barely know in this life and could have been your sister in the previous life and your brother in the next life. There is a deep knowing in all of us, but normally we move right along without recognizing these things. Still, in the core of our being, something recognizes these truths. And every now and then, something happens to cause us to stop and think about someone we’ve met and consider who that person might really be to us. As an exercise, you might consider stopping at least once a week and asking yourself who you have met in the past few days that seemed to trigger a sense of familiarity and then think about that person as a past-life context. You might start treating one another a lot better.

 

If we’ve been in a situation in this lifetime with someone who hurts us, will we see that person again in another lifetime?

The simple answer is yes. As an example, a woman who found her husband in bed with another woman and divorces him will interact with him again in another lifetime, but it doesn’t have to be the same type of interaction. Maybe next time they will be co-workers and he’ll have an opportunity to help her make her life better; if only for a day. He might have a chance to repair the damage to the emotional body even if they never establish a relationship as friends in their lifetime as co-workers. She doesn’t owe him anything. When something like this happens, we may try to figure out what the lesson was – but this is only because we are human and we love puzzles. In addition, the reason it is difficult to answer is that paying off emotional debts (that is, referred to as Karmic Law) isn’t always in the next life time. It may be several life times later. Or, it could be the woman (above) was paying off her debt to him when he cheated on her; that is, she was being punished for something she had done in a past life to a third party. We can’t really know.

 

In order to evolve as a soul is it absolutely required that we get along with everyone?

Here in the physical world, nobody’s perfect. We incarnate into this world with different lessons to learn; that means we have different personalities and have been indoctrinated/taught different beliefs and behaviors. We have come here to this physical world to learn and that means making mistakes. The fact is that if you are able to get along with everyone, it’s probably because you are locked up in an institution and not allowed to talk to or be in contact with another living human being. So, no, you are not absolutely required to get along with everyone. (Go back to the previous questions and read about Karmic law.)

 

A book that is interesting to read is The Five People You Meet in Heaven, by Mitch Albom, Hyperion, NY, NY, 2003.

This week's question/answer was co-written by Sandy Shapiro and Richard Parker.

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