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Written by R. C. Parker
Edited by Sandy Shapiro

 

CAVEAT: The information presented in this series of posts is important to message receivers and message givers, but is not intended as a certification process to vouch for or teach everything that these individuals need to know. Always keep in mind that an individual has free will and should never sacrifice his/her free will to a psychic message or to a message giver.

 

I enjoy getting psychic messages and participating in psychic readings by an ethical practitioner (a psychic or medium). And, I enjoy attending a spiritualist church/chapel in which a practitioner gives messages to the attendees/congregation as a part of the overall chapel service. I also enjoy participating in meditation circles for developing practitioners and the ethical use of their skills, especially when the circle is lead by a psychic or medium who is sensitive to the participant’s level of knowledge; for example, giving a message to the new participant who has only limited exposure to the etiquette of receiving messages often requires additional clarification for the message to be beneficial to the recipient.

The information in this write-up is intended as a helpful guide to any psychic/medium in their delivery of life-affirming messages or readings. And, it will benefit the recipient by their getting the maximum benefit from a message or reading.

 

 

LIMIT: This write-up does not cover two potentially important areas: (1) going to a psychic-healer or faith-healer, or (2) attending a séance (get together for the express purpose of contacting spirits). While these are interesting subjects, the ethics and protocol for them is complex and involves a focused write-up. As for séances, the fact is that not many people participate in them anymore and it is difficult to find a medium who is interested in holding séances (except on television).

WHERE DO WE START?

I am concerned about certain aspects of psychic messages/readings.

  • One of my concerns is the practitioner (message giver) who is sincere (has good intentions) and is honest (trustworthy), but gives out a vague message that basically turns out to be useless.
    • It is acceptable if the message is intended to be a feel-good piece of life-affirming information; e.g., I see your mother (family member, friend, teacher, etc.), who has passed over to the spirit world. She wants you to know how much she loves you and how proud she is of you.
    • The problem area is when the message involves a future possibility, but has little directionality; e.g., “I see a lot of money coming to you, shortly.” What does the recipient do with this information?
  • Another problem area is the practitioner who gives out a message that has a negative format even when the practitioner is trustworthy and is giving the message with good intentions. For example, “I see health problems around your spouse.” Or, “You have a lot of financial problems around you.” Now, the problem with this type of message is what does the recipient do with it; or does it stress/distress the recipient? The vague and negative message often is stressful to the recipient as it leaves them dangling with little or no life-affirming actions they need to consider.
  • Then we get to the worse type of message in which the practitioner (psychic/medium) is intentionally giving the message/reading a negative spin to be cruel or to manipulate the recipient. For example, “I see holes in your aura where someone is attacking you and stealing your energy, but there is a way to fix the problem. If you pay me (give me a large donation), I will take care of the problems/attacker for you.” 

 

NEGATIVE AND DISTRESSING MESSAGES/READINGS

Should a practitioner only give pleasurable and joyful messages? The fact is there are times it is the practitioner’s responsibility to be honest and realize that their message may sound blunt or harsh. 

ETIQUETTES FOR THE MESSAGE GIVER

When you join/attend a meditation circle you may be there to provide messages. Giving messages is like any skill…you become better, more accurate, and sensitive to others by practicing. Here are a few rules.

  • Always invoke a protective circle around you and the people who are getting messages.
  • Always ask each person if they want you to give them a message. Some people take a little time to warm up to the idea of receiving a psychic message even when they are attending a circle.
  • If the message part of the circle is to give short focused messages stick to positive things. Quick message sharing is not a good time for giving a recipient a distressful message.
  • If you get a distressful or negative message, hesitate and ask your spirit guide to provide you with some information that will help the recipient take positive action.
  • If you get a distressful or negative message and your spirit guide cannot provide any positive help, then refocus the message on a smaller chunk size. For example, you get a funeral – you can refocus and provide a less depressing message like I feel a need for you to visit a medical doctor. Or spirit is telling me that you should follow your doctor’s advice.
  • Always allow a few short questions for clarification. Whenever possible, ask the recipient if they need additional clarification after the circle.

 

SELF-AFFIRMING ACTION

As presented in Part 2 of this series, I use the term “life-affirming” action a lot.  When it concerns the message giver, it means that the message should be formatted in such a way that it encourages a positive outlook. For example, the message giver says, “I see a terrible car crash around you and it involves serious injuries.” Can this message be presented in a life-affirming manner/format? Well yes! For example, the message giver can say, “I am picking up some mechanical problems with your automobile that could result in physical injuries.  I suggest that you see an auto mechanic and have your car checked for problems, and that you remember to wear your seat belt.” 

If you get a message of a terrible car crash, you should ask your guides to clarify the cause; e.g., is it mechanical; is it the route or time of this trip (if it mechanical, you can suggest that the recipient have their car serviced and/or if it is the road or time, you can suggest a different way home or to delay the trip for an hour); ASK for clarification!

Keep in mind that a harsh fact is that human beings are going to have health or family relationship problems that end sadly.   The question here is can you as a message bearer provide life-affirming information when the message is bad? Here too the answer is yes; and, that as the message giver, it is your responsibility to provide life-affirming actions along with your message. It does require some conscientious thinking on your part. For example, you receive a message that someone in the meditation circle has cancer that is sure to be fatal.  

 

IMPORTANT NOTE HERE:  Your message should begin with advice that the message receiver see a doctor immediately (be specific on what type of doctor if you know the medical problem).  Be as sure as you can be about your message before giving a message of this sort; because, if you are wrong, the recipient could “self confirm your message and fulfill your dire message” even if they are perfectly healthy.

 

If you do feel that your message is valid, again, begin with the advice to see a doctor immediately and then your message should include life-affirming suggestions such as, “you could use this time in your life to gather your loved ones around you and share your stories of love and joy. You could write your own obituary…what legacy do you want to leave behind? You could spend some time alone and think about those you are leaving behind – offering forgiveness and love to them and to yourself.” Depending on how much time the recipient has to live, you could suggest that he/she develop a bucket list of unfilled dreams and aspiration, and that he/she could do as much as possible on their bucket list. The life-affirming action plan you present should include encouragement that he/she fill their days with life.

If you are not sure that your message is accurate or you find it hard to present your message in a life-affirming way, then you should just highly recommend that the message receiver see a doctor immediately and you could denote the area of the physical body that should be examined.

In conclusion, here is a message that I use whenever giving or receiving messages.  I highly recommend that you too use it, both when you are giving a message and when/if you are receiving a message. 

Close your eyes and calmly affirm…
”I am completely surrounded, permeated, cleansed, and protected with white, blue, and silver energies. Only truth and good, love and light can come to me, go from me, come through me, or stay with me. All that touches me and all that I share with others is for my good and the good of all concerned. 
I Am Peace; I Am Light; I Am Love.”

 

Click here for Part 1.  Psychic Messages
Click here for Part 2.  Receiving Messages

 

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