▣ The Role-Models that "Sneak" into the Unconscious Part of Your Life
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One reason you are often drained of energy is the Role-Models that you invite or you allow to be sneaking into your unconscious mind (JARs).
THE ROLE-MODELS THAT “SNEAK” INTO THE UNCONSCIOUS PART OF YOUR LIFE
Written by R. C. Parker
You’ve heard the statement before regarding food - you are what you eat. Well this posting is not about improving your eating habits; however, it could have that added benefit. This posting is to get you to consciously focus on the role-models you either put into or let sneak into your unconscious mental processes (JAR) on a constant basis – that is, who do you let in to your life on a daily basis without thinking about the impact they are having on your life-force or energy?
This obviously includes your family, friends, and co-workers, as they are all part of your life and, therefore, become role-models. You may not think of them as role-models because you generally don’t even think of them except in their main role – e.g., my spouse, my brother, my son, my secretary, my boss, etc. But, you can improve your energy by sitting down with a journal and writing your thoughts out about what the various individuals in your life mean to you; for this exercise, just think of them as role-models. What do you admire about each of them? What is the main quality or attribute that you think of when you think of this person? What behaviors bother or frustrate you; surprise, these are often the same behaviors you have and don’t like to admit having? What are you trying to change about them and why? What do you completely dislike or even hate about them and would like to change to make them a better person?
After you write the answers to these questions, try this exercise…
“Imagine being able to step into their body as if it is a garment (get in that co-worker, or friend, or family member’s body) - how would I see myself (yourself) and would you know something different that would make you behave differently?”
JOURNAL SCENARIO EXAMPLE IN BREAK UPS
· If you can be honest and admit that the problems were caused by both parties, you can learn a lot about yourself – but the truth is, most of us need a third person to help us discover our unconscious mental processes for breaking up with a long-term, good friend, or for getting a divorce.
1. In a divorce my spouse had some serious behavioral problem, for example, one member was physically abusive, or an addict, or cheated (infidelity), or was arrested for criminal activities and incarcerated for life, etc.
2. In a friendship situation or even a love-relationship, one of the people moves hundreds of miles away and the two people slowly, over months, drift apart. They may still consider themselves friends, but wind up not seeing each other for years.
THE MEME ROLE-MODELS IN YOUR LIFE – MEMES
As stated, your family, friends, and co-workers all become role-models in your life. But there are a number of role-models that sneak up on you like the junk food calories in fast food, not that all the meme type role-models are bad; as a matter of fact, some are extremely positive. The problem is that the meme role-models are flooding your unconscious thoughts and mental processes unfiltered. They are also insidious in breaking through our conscious controls – that is why they are referred to as a MEME. A meme is anything that can seep into your memory and stick. A jingle advertisement is intended to seep into your mind and have you compulsively humming it – that is the principle of a meme. An idea catches on, some ideas become a meme and just catch on without anyone intending it to – e.g., years ago, someone jokingly sold a small rock as a pet; the pet rock caught on and thousands sold.
James Bond and Sherlock Holmes, for example, are both well known memes. Bond is a fictitious character created by Ian Fleming. Bond – James Bond of Her Majesty’s Service - is licensed to kill. He can solve almost any problem by seducing a beautiful lady, out driving a professional NASCAR driver, out gambling any type of professional gambler, out fighting several highly trained assassins, indiscriminately killing anyone that he thinks needs to be killed, and miraculously recovering from the worst kinds of injuries. There are hundreds of secret agents, detectives, protective police officers, and rogue vigilantes being written about every year; so why are James Bond and Sherlock Holmes so famous and well-known? Their authors were able to create insidious memes’ characters in their stories that tagged our unconscious hunger for heroes.
Our modern day advertising experts, writers of books, some television shows, and movies, have learned to create memes by doing a number of things:
(1) repeating a powerful message,
(2) making it visual and auditory,
(3) sexualizing it,
(4) making it seem like a scarce resource, and
(5) using subliminal signals.
They are not legally allowed to use subliminal signals on television or in a movie anymore; but they can use legerdemain (magic’s misdirection, i.e., sleight of hand) to get you to drop your mental barriers and allow their message to enter your unconscious. I suggest you stop for one day and intentionally focus on the characters that you are ingesting as role-models – especially at the unconscious or unintentional level. If you were to stop and keep a written log – a journal – for one day each month, you would not only be surprised, but you would be delighted to find yourself being more selective in your viewing choices.
This exercise sounds simple, but it is harder than imagined. For one day, keep a log of the various major actors, sports figures, news-casters, talk-show hosts, and fictional characters you spend five minutes or more with while watching television or reading about.
You can gain a great benefit by sitting down with a journal and writing your thoughts out about
· What these characters mean in your life?
· What do you admire as a role-model about each of them?
· What behaviors bother you (surprise, these are often the same ones you have and don’t like to admit you have them)?
· What would you like to change about them and why?
After you write the answers to these questions try this exercise,
· “If only I were (put in the name of the character), how would I see myself (you).”
That is the extent of the work you need to do - gain awareness of the role-models you are putting in to your JARs. You can still watch Dr. Phil; you can still sit and enjoy a Sherlock Holmes’ movie, or the next episode of Desperate Housewives.
Awareness is the strongest mental filter for insuring your mental health when it comes to sneaky role-models.