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GRATITUDE ROCKS
The following is my interpretation/elucidation of obtaining, creating and using my version of a gratitude rock – Richard Parker.
During our daily lives, we sometimes wish or want things to be better.  However, what we do is focus on the negative events or people that have put a negative idea in our thoughts; and then this focus creates a repetitive loop of negative thoughts in our heads.

 

GRATITUDE ROCKS
The following is my interpretation/elucidation of obtaining, creating and using my version of a gratitude rock – Richard Parker.
During our daily lives, we sometimes wish or want things to be better.  However, what we do is focus on the negative events or people that have put a negative idea in our thoughts; and then this focus creates a repetitive loop of negative thoughts in our heads. You can work really hard and fight the repetitive negative thought or behavior – but this generally just makes it stronger and attracts even more negativity to you. Your thoughts are like magnets – you put a magnet near a steel piece of metal and they are always attracted to each other. You could demagnetize the magnet or move the two objects so far apart that the magnetic attraction just is not strong enough to pull them together - however, it is harder for most people to demagnetize their repetitive negative thoughts/behaviors because they try to use brute mental powers.
However, do not be discouraged – there is a powerful way to demagnetize repetitive thoughts and behaviors or even completely remove them. It is to acknowledge the positive things that have occurred in your life today – ask yourself, “What am I grateful for today?”
However, it is not always that easy for many people to just verbally describe something they are grateful for because the mind can come up with all kinds of counter-example problems (negative thoughts that loop) of why they should be unhappy and keep repeating the negative thought or behavior. But there is a way to make it easier or, should I say, a double edged way. The answer is to carry a “gratitude rock” in your pocket or purse.
What is a gratitude rock? It is a plain old small rock that you rub with your fingers at the end of each day. It is best if it is a smooth stone about the size of a nickel or quarter. It does not have to be a fancy stone; it can be one you find out in your yard. In truth, it is a memory device – at sometime in your past you may have tied a string around your finger to remind you to do something. The string had no real power, but it was a simple reminder. Well, so the gratitude rock is a reminder that something has happened today that you can be grateful happened. It is okay if you want to use a fancy stone – my friend uses a Celtic Rune and I use a blue bead that you can buy in any garden shop. 
The thing you are grateful for does not have to be a grand event – grand events do not happen that often. I am 69 years old and I can make a lifetime list and have less than 30 grand events or 25 great people that I am grateful for coming into my life. However, it is possible to find numerous people who did a kindness for me and small events that I am grateful for each day.
The process! I rub my gratitude rock and think, for example:
·          I am grateful for the customer representative who explained the complex banking form.
·          I am grateful to the restaurant waiter who changed my lunch order graciously.
·          I am grateful for all my Internet friends who thought of me today and sent a funny joke by email.
·          I am grateful for the money I have in my pocket at the end of this difficult day.
You want to carry the gratitude rock in your pocket or purse so you come in contact with it at least once each day – preferably, at the end of the day. By repeatedly touching/rubbing the gratitude stone, you are energizing it to attract even more abundance of resources and wonderful people to you. An added benefit is that if you are having a rough time during a hectic day, the gratitude rock can be used as a method of soothing your agitated mind/emotions. This gratitude rock is particularly beneficial when someone is criticizing or discounting you.  
Example of how this can work in one’s life!
Let’s say we are advising Miley Cyrus aka Hannah Montana, we tell her to…
carry a gratitude rock. And, whenever someone criticizes or discounts your talent or you as a person, remember they are probably (a) envious of your talent and creativity; or (b) jealous of your success; or (c) just unhappy with their own life and the only approach they have is to lash out at someone who is famous and successful. And, we continue to advise her to be particularly wary of parents who want you and their own kid to remain as a pre-teen child that never grows or changes in anyway. So, in the future mess with their tiny frozen concepts of you and do not lose your temper (at least not in public), but practice being verbally kind but you may still want to come back with a subtle zinger. For example:
·          “God Bless you (if it’s a particular person use their name) – may you one day be as happy as I am!” NOTE: do not define what makes you happy and no matter what the other person says how can they prove they are happy - or happier than you?
·          Or for example in an interview, “God Bless her, may her hard work pay off as successfully as my hard work.”
·          Or an even more powerful approach is, “I hear what she/he said and I am very grateful for my talents, my creativity, and my wonderful fans.”
 
IN CONCLUSION
There are a number of ways you can improve your life; the gratitude rock is just one of these tools and it is a very simple and useful tool. It works even better when you create new verbal patterns in your self-talk and in your conversations with others. It is not a simple matter of using the gratitude rock one time or even for 21 days – it may take you months or even years to demagnetize your internal repetitive dialog.  But it is a simple approach - you can continue to carry your gratitude stone forever.
The gratitude rock will also work if you are having obsessive thoughts that lead to repetitive behaviors.   A CAVEAT here:  if your life is dysfunctional due to an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) you should seek the help of a skilled/qualified individual – a psychologist or psychiatrist.
There is a secondary benefit to energizing the gratitude stone – the stone will become a mental magnet to tell the conscious and unconscious parts of your mind that you are open to the glorious wealth and resources as set forth in the Universal Law of Attraction.
NOTE: In addition to my interpretation/elucidation of obtaining, creating, and using my version of a gratitude rock, there is a book and a separate DVD titled, “THE SECRET” from 2006 that provides you with an introduction to beneficial success techniques and the Law of Attraction.
– Richard Parker, July 2010
 

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