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posted by admin on January 31st, 2010 at 6:42 PM

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Let’s discuss here how many times you/we have sabotaged ourselves.
Again, I must take us to our jars (subconscious).  Here we find our foundation for self-esteem/self-worth.  We create and live our entire lives through the beliefs we hold about ourselves.  If we feel unworthy, we create situations in our lives that mirror our unworthiness back to us.  If we feel unlovable, we search endlessly for someone who will love us.  When we find someone who we feel loves us, he/she will inevitably behave in ways that make us feel unloved/betrayed by love.   If we feel we are not smart enough, we may drop out of school or avoid going to college because of a fear of failure.  Whatever belief(s) you have about yourself forms the foundation of your behavior, your choices, your experiences, and what and/or who you attract into life.

Some of the ways we sabotage ourselves are…

·       We stay in the same old job because we tell ourselves that this job is the best we can do because we are (you name it).  Take a chance and apply for other jobs.  You may surprise yourself when you get one with a great big promotion, more money, and a brighter future.

·       We stay in a bad relationship because we think we will not be able to find someone else or are afraid of being alone.  Bad relationships are unhealthy for us.  Do something about it.  Get out or get counseling, talk/work it out; but if you just try to ignore it, it will most likely get worse. 

·       We tell ourselves that we should not go to a party because we do not have a pretty enough outfit to wear, or our hair is just not right, …  Regardless of the outfit and the hair, put on a smile and go and have a good time.  If you are smiling and having a good time, no one will be looking at your dress; and if they are, it is about them, not you. 

·       We avoid the carnival because we feel we are too old to go on the rides.  Be like a child…go, ride, enjoy, have cotton candy!

 

The way we sabotage others…
We also sabotage others and it is usually the ones we care about because we think we are protecting them.  And, sometimes we sabotage others because of jealousy, revenge, or just because we are tired and could use the energy we steal from them. 

NOTE:  I must interject here that stolen energy is like eating a bowl of sugar, you get an instant energy boost, but it dissipates quickly; so then you have to go out and steal some more energy from the same person or from someone else.  Learn how to create your own light energy.  It is long lasting and enlightening when you learn to channel it for yourself.

How do we sabotage others?

·       You tell your children that they are too fat/not smart enough/lazy/good for nothing.

·       Because you do not want your child to go on a field trip, you tell the child that he/she would disappoint you if they go. 

·       You do not want the expense and trouble of dance lessons, so when your child asks to take tap dancing, you tell the child that he/she has two left feet and it would be a waste of money.

·       Your co-worker did a great job, but you downplay it and say that it was acceptable and that the co-worker should try harder the next time. 

·       Your friend is trying to lose weight so you make plans to go to an all you can eat buffet with the staff.

·       Your friend has a drinking problem so you ask him/her to meet you in a bar and drink in front of him/her.

The pay-off or the pay-back for you (Law of Cause and Effect)…
There is a price associated with all of our thoughts and actions even those really benevolent ones when we convince ourselves that what we are saying/doing is for someone else’s good.

·       If you sabotage yourself from looking for a new job, the price may be that your current job will get worse or even abolished.

·       If you keep going on the same vacation because you are trying to relive that vacation the way it was 10 years ago when you had a great time, the price is all the vacation opportunities you missed by always returning to the same place.

·       If you sabotage someone else, the price may be that they will lose opportunities, jobs, good times; and will at some point move out of your life because of the games you play.  

In summary…
This discussion is here to spark your self-awareness about the games we play with ourselves and others.  Of course, you know about the Law of “Cause and Effect,” because of the great role it plays in your life’s journey; however, it is easy to forget that we are responsible for our behaviors, as innocent as some of them may be; and so we must be consistently reminded to stay in present time and respond to our lives through present consciousness.  Be honest with yourself; listen to your language, pay attention to your actions, and be open to the challenges of life.  When faced with challenges, we often become like frightened children and revert to our old behaviors/our muscle memory reactions; when, in fact, it is time to wake up, stand up, and be responsible.  You will be amazed at how brave you can be if you choose to handle life.    Stand up and move forward!

 

Learn the lesson well of the spiritual truth:

Criticize not unless ye wish to be criticized.

For, with what measure ye mete it is measured to thee again.

It may not be in the same way, but ye cannot even think bad of another

without it affecting thee in a manner of a destructive nature.

Think well of others, and if ye cannot speak well of them don't speak!

but don't think it either!
Edgar Cayce Reading 2936-2

 

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