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When the Walls Come Down

It was one of those business trips when my husband decided to come along with me. It was a short trip and we would drive.    It was a beautifully clear day --blue skies, the sun shining, and no humidity; so we were able to travel with the car windows open. The roads were clear of traffic allowing us to glide right along.   I usually carry snacks when we travel.  My husband decided he could use a snack so I gave him a protein bar.   He proceeded to drive while trying to open the bar wrapper with his teeth.  It was not working.  It was one of those protein bars that was wrapped in some sort of foil wrap that just stuck like glue to the bar.   Here’s where I made my first mistake.  

When the Walls Come Down

It was one of those business trips when my husband decided to come along with me. It was a short trip and we would drive.    It was a beautifully clear day --blue skies, the sun shining, and no humidity; so we were able to travel with the car windows open. The roads were clear of traffic allowing us to glide right along.   I usually carry snacks when we travel.  My husband decided he could use a snack so I gave him a protein bar.   He proceeded to drive while trying to open the bar wrapper with his teeth.  It was not working.  It was one of those protein bars that was wrapped in some sort of foil wrap that just stuck like glue to the bar.   Here’s where I made my first mistake.  I offered to help – he declined my offer.  He finally got it open; then, mind you while continuing to drive, he relentlessly tried to get the foil wrap (which was stuck to the bar) down so that he could get a bite of the bar.   Here’s where I made my second mistake -- I offered to help.    At this point, my husband took the bar and threw it out of the opened window.  I am sure that he was frustrated with trying to drive, open the wrapper, and then trying to pull the wrapper off the protein bar so he could finally get a bite of the bar.    And, of course, my offer to help only incensed him more.  Of course, I reacted when the bar went out the window.   That was my third mistake. They say things come in three’s.   So for many miles to come, we did not speak.  

 

Out of these challenging times, insights can be gained.  During this quiet, non-verbal, time, I did some real contemplating.     At one point, I was gazing out of the window at the scenery.   The view was of an open field that seemed to go on and on.     Then, in an instant, I felt a shift in my awareness – you know that place you go to when you observe serenity and suddenly realize how unimportant everything material is when you gaze upon the magnitude of God’s creation.   

 

In this state of consciousness, I perceived myself surrounded by walls.   As I forgot about the episode with my husband and marveled at God’s creation, the walls began to crumble down.   I sensed myself being released/releasing.   Beyond the crumbled walls, I found freedom as this new space enlarged my surroundings.   Then, I saw a blue bird being released from a cage lifting itself up into the sky.   This was one of those “wow” moments.  A breakthrough as I call it.    I realized at that moment that being stubborn and holding onto old beliefs or habits, creates walls around our freedom.   When we release and let go of these habits, beliefs, or stubbornness, we break down these walls and create a new freedom for ourselves.  Just like the blue bird that was released from the cage.  

 

Just as I was returning to conscious awareness of being in the car with my husband, I noticed out in the distance that there was another wall. This wall, of course, was much further out than the wall that had just crumbled; however, I did realize that as I release and crumble one wall, there are other walls out there around me that I need to address. So I now know that there will always be something to release. I also realized that I could build new walls around me when I create a grudge or belief that limits me.   I decided at that moment to start on a road of releasing. The feeling of freedom that came over me when that wall crumbled birthed within me a momentum to keep releasing – to keep expanding my consciousness.

 

Therefore, the “why to release and let go” is that letting go of your burden of carrying around outdated beliefs, grudges, hurts, anger, fear, resentment, …, opens your consciousness to a world of love and a freedom to get to know who you really are and to recognize your loved ones, friends and neighbors for who they are.

 

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